Chinlingo Podcast: What Chinese girls say is not what they thought?

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Yǒu xǔ duō rén xǐ huān Zhōng guó nǚ sheng, dàn nǐ zhēn de zhī dào rú hé gēn Zhōng guó nǚ shēng xiāng chǔ ma?

有许多人喜欢中国女生，但你真的知道如何跟中国女生相处吗？

Many people enjoy being with Chinese girls, but do they really know how to get along with those girls?

Zhōng guó nǚ sheng, dà duō bǐ jiào wēn róu, shuō huà wéi wǎn, tā men hěn shǎo zhí jiē biǎo dá tā men de xiǎng fǎ jiù suàn shēng qì yě bú huì zhí jiē shuō chū lái. 

中国女生，大多比较温柔，说话委婉，她们很少直接表达她们的想法，就算生气也不会直接说出来。

Most Chinese girls are tender and euphemistic, who do not usually speak out what they thought directly, even when they are angry.

Nà me tā men shuō de zhè xiē huà, nǐ zhēn de tīng dǒng le ma?

那么她们说的这些话，你真的听懂了吗？

Well, can you understand what they really mean by saying the following words?

Méi shì 

没事。

I'm fine.

Dāng yí gè Zhōng guó nǚ hái shuō "méi shì", tā zhēn shí de yì si què shì "yǒu shì", bìng qiě xī wàng nǐ néng duō guān xīn tā.

当一个中国女孩说"没事"，她真实的意思却是"有事"，并且希望你能多关心她。

When a Chinese girl says "I'm fine", what she really means is totally opposite. Instead, she hopes you can pay more attention to her.

Méi guān xi

没关系。

Never mind.

Dāng nǐ gēn yí gè Zhōng guó nǚ hái dào qiàn, dé dào zhè gè dá àn, tā zhēn shí de yì si què yǒu kě néng shì "yǒu guān xi", xī wàng nǐ néng gěi tā gèng duō bǔ cháng.

当你跟一个中国女孩道歉，得到这个答案，她真实的意思却有可能是"有关系"，希望你能给她更多补偿。

If a Chinese girl gives you that answer when you apologize to her, what she really means may be "it does matter" instead, wishing you could make up for her.

Suí biàn

随便。

Whatever.

Rú guǒ nǐ wèn Zhōng guó nǚ hái de jiàn yì, dé dào le zhè gè dá àn, tā qí shí fēi cháng xī wàng nǐ néng zhī dào tā xǐ huān shén me bìng bāng tā zuò chū xuǎn zé. 

如果你问中国女孩的建议，得到了这个答案，她其实非常希望你能知道她喜欢什么并帮她做出选择。

If a Chinese girl says that when you ask her for advice, what she really wants is you can make a choice for her based on what you know about her preference. What she really wants is to

Suàn le 

算了。

Forget it.

Rú guǒ nǐ gēn yí gè Zhōng guó nǚ hái chǎn shēng le zhēng chǎo, tā duì nǐ shuō "suàn le", tā kě néng zhǐ shì xiǎng gào su nǐ: Tā fēi cháng shī wàng. 

如果你跟一个中国女孩产生了争吵，她对你说"算了"，她可能只是想告诉你：她非常失望。

When a Chinese girl replies "forget it" to you when you two are arguing, she may just want you to know that she is rather disappointed at you.

Nǐ zài gàn ma 

你在干嘛？

What are you up to?

Zhōng guó nǚ hái hěn shǎo zhí jiē biǎo dá zì jǐ de gǎn qíng, dāng yí gè Zhōng guó nǚ hái zhè yàng wèn nǐ, tā kě néng zhǐ shì xiǎng shuō: Wǒ xiǎng nǐ le!

中国女孩很少直接表达自己的感情，当一个中国女孩这样问你，她可能只是想说：我想你了！

As Chinese girls rarely express their feelings directly, they may just want to say "I miss you" when asking you "what are you up to".‍‍

[Key Words]

没事 (méi shì), It's fine/I'm fine

没关系 (méi guān xi), never mind

随便 (suí biàn), whatever

算了 (suàn le), forget it

你在干嘛 (nǐ zài gàn ma), what are you up to